Being ill as a singleton

Ok, before anyone says it, I will say it for you – yes I need to man up. There you go. Now, I don’t want the comments to be filled with those words, or similar derivatives. I’m not good at being ill. My body systems are generally quite fragile and although I rarely get ill, when I do it tends to knock me for six…well usually actually nine or ten! I’m currently recovering from a bout of what I consider to be flu. Although this might be to other people just a cold, the temperature and the shivers leads me to think it was flu and as I laid shivering in my bed, feeling sorry for myself, I got a thinking about why it is sometimes hard to be a singleton and ill. (BTW – the image is not me! it was the only barely suitable one I could find.)

On a side note, I was actually wondering if there was a male equivalent of a spinster apparently the closest you can get is a bachelor which appears to be an overall nicer term than spinster. Hopefully these archaic words will eventually ceased to be used in language. Anyway – back to more important issues – me being ill. It probably doesn’t surprise you at all that I am single. Before getting ill the blog post that I was going to write was going to be the first of a series of posts called – “How Weird am I – ****” with the stars being replaced with words such as diet, routines, OCD etc. These will definitely support the fact why I am single. I live alone in a little flat. My family, as in mother and siblings, are all close by but I do live alone. They all know that when I am ill, it is wise to avoid me, since I am the worse patient ever! Despite this there are times when I am ill that I do wish there was someone around to look after me.

  • Need more tablets – Due to me gentle ‘systems’ paracetamol is the only tablet that I can take when ill with a temperature – apart from the hard hitting antibiotics which I can take almost all of these. When I am really ill I try to think ahead and get everything by my bedside, paracetamol, water, Strepsils, Gaviscon, tissues so that I don’t actually have to move. However there comes the time when the last paracetamol enters my system and, in my shivering state, I have to some how leave my bed to get some more. Although these are not necessarily a long way from the bed, the distance seems HUGE! I often do consider whether I can survive without them, but in the end I have to venture out from the warmth of my duvet to get some more. It would be so nice to have someone to replenish them for me.
  • Food and Drink – My mum used to have a lot of sayings and ‘remedies’, including putting butter on a bump head – what was that all about! I always remember that she would say you need to feed a cold but starve a fever. When I get ill the first thing which leaves me is my appetite. Now this isnt that good at the best of times, but I do try and eat the best I can. As I am currently recovering the only thing I actually have an appetite for are Jaffa cakes! I hope this passes soon otherwise I am going to be the size of a house! I do try to eat soup when I am ill. It seems wholesome and almost appropriate. It would have been so nice to actually have this delivered to me in bed – instead of actually having to get up and make it and wash the dishes after.
  • Kick my arse… – Of course, I’m not meaning this literally. I’ve already mentioned that I am not a good patient and I tend to really think the worse is going to happen. When I got one of my wisdom teeth extracted it took another scientist actually reminding me of the amount of blood you could loose to make be stop worrying about the small dab of blood which was coming from the wound. I always think the worse, and I need someone to tell me that I am alright and that I am not dying and that it is time to get going and get over being ill. When I had my appendix out, I was really surprised how quickly they got me up and walking again – I was planning on staying bedridden for months! Although this might have been because they needed my bed, I did appreciate it in the end. Although initially it would be nice to have someone around to reassure you, after a while I think I do need someone to say – come on, you are not dying let’s get on with life. This would definitely improve my recovery – especially if it is accompanied with Jaffa Cakes 🙂
  • It might appear that I just need a nurse maid when I am ill and yes that would be nice – although don’t nag me too early because I would probably just growl. But what I would really value is that reassurance that I am not that bad and that, when the time is appropriate, that it is time to cast off that duvet and start to get back to normal. Hopefully there will come a time that, when I feel the first emerging symptoms of a cold/flu appearing I can press a button and that hologram will appear and say – “Please state the nature of the medical emergency”…my reply? I have flu…and everything will be better…

    Are you the worse patient ever? or do you know someone who is worse than me? Are you single and can relate to being ill when you are alone? Do you have any tips or tricks to help me until the holographic doctors are created? Well, if you have an answer to any of these questions then please add them in the comments below and send them to me via Twitter and/or Facebook.

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    2 comments for “Let Me In! – Simon’s Cat – YouTube

    1. February 19, 2017 at 2:00 pm

      Would be cool to play an one off, one of the dungeon crawls you made! Maybe the 8 level one!!!

    2. March 21, 2017 at 12:05 am

      I miss those early days so much. The current state of rpg’s , the rpg xubculture if you like, doesn’t feel like it did back then. I can’t quite put my finger on it.

      I was introduced to Advanced D&D 1st Edition, by my sisters boyfriend (the BEST boyfriend of the many she had IMHO..), who showed me S3 Expedition to the Barrier Peaks module after discovering I enjoyed computer based adventure games, I was hooked immediately and it wasn’t too long before I was hanging around the local game shop, Games Gallery, from which I was invited to join in a game run by the assistant manager, who was to become my long and good friend Steve, who was coincidentally, the reason I got to work at the local branch of Games Workshop for a time. Working there, in those days, before it became a Warhammer only shop, was amazing. It was the proverbial kid in the sweet shop!. Staff discount made it even sweeter – 50% off GW’s own products, and 25% off everything else. We also ran a great rpg club, with about 60-80 members at its peak.
      I was always the GM for my main group as no one else had the time it took to prepare a game properly, though after a few changes to the group, and people from the club popping up, I eventually got to play. Games by a company called Fantasy Games Unlimited (FGU) were very popular in all of my groups. FGU sold games such as Bushido, Aftermath,Space Opera, Chivalry & Sorcery, Freedom Fighters, and Bunnies & Burrows, but there were many many more games, by many different companies, covering all sorts of genres – and I still have them all. Many were, as was the style back then, table and chart and rule HEAVY. We loved that. Comparing themto the current crop of “rules lite” systems, I would certainly go back to the old games instead. We played these games sometimes 5 days a week, as for a time we were all unemployed. It was all we did.
      I often spent days creating scenarios, making maps, creating player characters as well as npc’s. I found it quite therapeutic, as is miniature painting – thousands of the little buggers packed away testify to the time I spent doing it. My “toy soldiers” as my brother in law calls them…
      I used to get quite attached to my favourite characters, and whilst one or two died over the decades, most did not.
      For almost all of my characters I would go overboard by most people’s standards. I like to have an image for my characters, whether a photo or artwork. Sometimes I will see an image and that is the base for the whole character, built around the image.
      I always believed as a player, that giving the GM a detailed background, list of goals, motivations, friends, contacts and enemies, will help the GM bring my character into the game more, by using some of what I have given him in the game. As a GM I like to see what players come up with for their characters, and will often use it in the game. It involves the player more, makes the game more personal if part of the game is suddenly about them, and it can help the players become more invested in their characters.
      For myself, I would often map out the characters home, create a family tree, siblings, etc.
      For our Star Trek RPG (by FASA Corp), I created the whole crew of a 500+ personnel star ship… All as detailed player characters. Unnecessary and a bit OTT I know, but it helped bring every department on the ship alive, every member of the landing party was a person not simply a red shirt.

      I am often bemused whilst watching streams when I see the gm of a streamed game pull some “new” idea out of his box of tricks, and the players are like “wow!”, “that’s original”, “I would never have thought of doing it that way!”, knowing we did it 30-40 years ago.

      The games my most recent group and I played/ran, were very detailed games with a lot of depth. Quite dark games too, mature themed, and often very emotional and intense. Having played with the same people for nigh on 20 years, you create a bond, a closeness and familiarity that allows you to communicate in a way you couldn’t, with people you don’t know very well.
      I have been brought to tears several times in recent years during the last (decade long) game we played ,as some scenes were simply too emotional or powerful, overwhelming (GM was a bastard – but an EXCELLENT GM).

      Sadly the group folded, but the GM offered to keep the game going for just me, which he did for a few years, which to be honest I really needed, as it helped me through a bad depression at that time).
      Over the years I have experienced a lot of things because of rpg’s, and made some great friends, too. I have a lot to be grateful for, regarding rpg’s. I was discussing with my brother in law, my collection of rpg’s and miniatures. When he realised how much they are worth, (some regularly sell for £100’s!) he always tells me to sell sell sell. He doesn’t grasp what they mean to me .
      Yet I won’t. Part of me hopes and prays that I will get a local group together (even some of the old group!) and start using them again. But aside from that, as my memory fails, little by little each year, these boxes and books and miniatures on the shelves are my constant reminders of happy and sad and exciting moments, and great fun, and more importantly, great friends.

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