Don’t you just hate ‘sayings’…

We have had a few blog posts which have been related to videos from my Twitch channel recently, and believe me there are plenty more to come, but I thought I would give you a change by posting something which you have to read or, if you are listening to the audio version of this post, listen to. When I am playing games online or working at university, I often find myself having to interpret the new ‘lingo’ that people are using and, often trying to use it but getting the pronunciation all incorrect. As I try to engage with the new lingo I was reminded of some sayings which I have heard in the past and which I completely disagree with and even get annoyed about – yes me annoyed! can you imagine that. What are those sayings? Well that is what this waffle is about…

It’s funny how language changes through the years. I’m not sure whether it is because I am an old person in the younger world of streaming, but there are so many words which I have no idea what they mean – or their meaning has changed. A classic example of this is ‘salty’. To me, this is purely reserved for describing the taste of crisps and/or pork scratchings but apparently, it means something to do with being mad. Who would have thought. Anyone who watches my stream on a regular basis will know that it has taken me some time to say the words ’emote’ correctly and even now, as I write it, I am worried that when I do the audio version of this waffle that I will get it incorrect! If I did, then please don’t laugh – I’m working on it. But what I wanted to talk about were sayings from my era which I’m not sure whether everyone knows or even uses any more but sayings which, when I hear them or are used to me, actually do annoy me so much that I get… well… salty :).

  • Life begins at forty! – Now being older than probably many of you and even being more than twice as old as some of you, you probably think that the age of 40 is virtually a life time away at the moment. Believe me, before you know it you will be there and pretty soon after that you will be past it. But does life really begin at forty? Of course not! This is a classic saying which I think has been invented to be used to make people feel better about their age. Society as a whole can be quite ageist, I get it a lot when I am streaming – comments like “OMG you are like 60!”, “Hi Grandad!” and even – “you are too old to stream!”. I have a really supportive community around my streaming who actually see me as a person, which is so nice to have. As we get old, there is quite a stigma about it and I really do think that the saying – “life begins at forty” – is just a saying which has been created in a vain attempt to make us feel better about getting older. Yes I realise that by the time we are 40 we are probably more financially stable but don’t wait until you are 40 before you start your life – life begins as soon as you are born and continues to when you are dead so make the most of it. And, if you are worried about getting old and need some reassurance, yes there are down points, but just continue to enjoy life and if anyone doesn’t like you being your age, young or old, ditch them 🙂

  • Plenty more fish in the sea – Now, as well as being old I am also single. I remind myself of the Captain Hook character in the ‘real-life’ film version of Peter Pan when the lost boys, Peter and Wendy are all chanting – old and alone to the captain. Being single and my age generally means that I am no longer going on dates or meeting anyone. Indeed I don’t think I have ever been on a date in my life! But I have heard of people having relationships and then breaking up after some time and the phrase – “plenty more fish in the sea” being used. Even when I say I’m single sometimes people still quote the saying back to me – don’t worry – there are plenty more fish in the sea. This saying is probably technically incorrect in any case, especially if you actually take into account the current pollution rate and content of the world’s oceans there is probably less fish than a decade ago. But what really annoys me with this saying is that it is another attempt to make us feel good about something which has happened. Okay, you are alone, okay, you have broken up with someone or they have broken up with you – but just move on and pass them. Yes there are more people out there but within that population is a whole load of bottom feeders, predators and angel fish which will forget your name and face within seconds. Plus – and this links to my final saying which I dislike, it might be the case that most of those other fish are actually swimming away from you or paying no interest in you at all.

  • Beauty is in the eye of the beholder – And finally, my most disliked saying ever. Another, let’s try and make you feel better by using a saying – “Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder”. Yes I am old, yes I am single and, just to get the only hat-trick I will ever achieve, I was not blessed with stunning looks. People are like assigning ability scores in any role playing game. Unless you have cheated and have ‘fudged’ your rolls you will end up either with some extremes of scores or just average ones. Unfortunately when the dice were rolled for my creation, I was left with some average low rolls and this is what was created. I often say that when God was giving out brains, I thought he said trains and asked for a freight wagon. (Yes I am not very good at creating sayings either). And yes the saying about books and a horror also apply to me! Some people are naturally good looking, pretty and/or handsome, which ever word you want to use to describe it. People look at these people and think wow. But I am most definitely sure that no-one looks at me and things wow what a stunner! I can guarantee that no-one will ever look at me and think that I am beautiful and to go through life grasping to this saying would, if I am quite frank, just be ridiculous. If you play Dungeons and Dragons you will be aware of the monster called the Beholder. Well believe me when I tell you, its charisma score is miles higher than mine!

  • The more and more I write this waffle the more silly sayings come into my head. Many sayings are just there to be used to make people feel better and, in my humble opinion, I would just prefer to say – ok that happened, be positive and move on. There is however, one saying which I do like and often keep in my mind. Yes it might also be a feel good saying but one which I think helps us to stay positive and to live our lives how we want to and not how we are told to. “Say what you think and be who you are because the people who mind don’t matter and the people who matter don’t mind.”

    So do you use a lot of sayings? Do you think they have real meaning or just used in moments or sadness/madness? Do you have any sayings which you like to use a lot and actually live by? As always there is an empty comment box below where you can add your thoughts. If you feel like registering for the site, then the button is up in the top left – its easy to do and it will mean a lot to me.

    So, as this waffle comes to an end, it only remains for me to say, have fun guys and I’ll catch you all later and, until then, consider yourself waffled!

    2 comments for “Let Me In! – Simon’s Cat – YouTube

    1. February 19, 2017 at 2:00 pm

      Would be cool to play an one off, one of the dungeon crawls you made! Maybe the 8 level one!!!

    2. March 21, 2017 at 12:05 am

      I miss those early days so much. The current state of rpg’s , the rpg xubculture if you like, doesn’t feel like it did back then. I can’t quite put my finger on it.

      I was introduced to Advanced D&D 1st Edition, by my sisters boyfriend (the BEST boyfriend of the many she had IMHO..), who showed me S3 Expedition to the Barrier Peaks module after discovering I enjoyed computer based adventure games, I was hooked immediately and it wasn’t too long before I was hanging around the local game shop, Games Gallery, from which I was invited to join in a game run by the assistant manager, who was to become my long and good friend Steve, who was coincidentally, the reason I got to work at the local branch of Games Workshop for a time. Working there, in those days, before it became a Warhammer only shop, was amazing. It was the proverbial kid in the sweet shop!. Staff discount made it even sweeter – 50% off GW’s own products, and 25% off everything else. We also ran a great rpg club, with about 60-80 members at its peak.
      I was always the GM for my main group as no one else had the time it took to prepare a game properly, though after a few changes to the group, and people from the club popping up, I eventually got to play. Games by a company called Fantasy Games Unlimited (FGU) were very popular in all of my groups. FGU sold games such as Bushido, Aftermath,Space Opera, Chivalry & Sorcery, Freedom Fighters, and Bunnies & Burrows, but there were many many more games, by many different companies, covering all sorts of genres – and I still have them all. Many were, as was the style back then, table and chart and rule HEAVY. We loved that. Comparing themto the current crop of “rules lite” systems, I would certainly go back to the old games instead. We played these games sometimes 5 days a week, as for a time we were all unemployed. It was all we did.
      I often spent days creating scenarios, making maps, creating player characters as well as npc’s. I found it quite therapeutic, as is miniature painting – thousands of the little buggers packed away testify to the time I spent doing it. My “toy soldiers” as my brother in law calls them…
      I used to get quite attached to my favourite characters, and whilst one or two died over the decades, most did not.
      For almost all of my characters I would go overboard by most people’s standards. I like to have an image for my characters, whether a photo or artwork. Sometimes I will see an image and that is the base for the whole character, built around the image.
      I always believed as a player, that giving the GM a detailed background, list of goals, motivations, friends, contacts and enemies, will help the GM bring my character into the game more, by using some of what I have given him in the game. As a GM I like to see what players come up with for their characters, and will often use it in the game. It involves the player more, makes the game more personal if part of the game is suddenly about them, and it can help the players become more invested in their characters.
      For myself, I would often map out the characters home, create a family tree, siblings, etc.
      For our Star Trek RPG (by FASA Corp), I created the whole crew of a 500+ personnel star ship… All as detailed player characters. Unnecessary and a bit OTT I know, but it helped bring every department on the ship alive, every member of the landing party was a person not simply a red shirt.

      I am often bemused whilst watching streams when I see the gm of a streamed game pull some “new” idea out of his box of tricks, and the players are like “wow!”, “that’s original”, “I would never have thought of doing it that way!”, knowing we did it 30-40 years ago.

      The games my most recent group and I played/ran, were very detailed games with a lot of depth. Quite dark games too, mature themed, and often very emotional and intense. Having played with the same people for nigh on 20 years, you create a bond, a closeness and familiarity that allows you to communicate in a way you couldn’t, with people you don’t know very well.
      I have been brought to tears several times in recent years during the last (decade long) game we played ,as some scenes were simply too emotional or powerful, overwhelming (GM was a bastard – but an EXCELLENT GM).

      Sadly the group folded, but the GM offered to keep the game going for just me, which he did for a few years, which to be honest I really needed, as it helped me through a bad depression at that time).
      Over the years I have experienced a lot of things because of rpg’s, and made some great friends, too. I have a lot to be grateful for, regarding rpg’s. I was discussing with my brother in law, my collection of rpg’s and miniatures. When he realised how much they are worth, (some regularly sell for £100’s!) he always tells me to sell sell sell. He doesn’t grasp what they mean to me .
      Yet I won’t. Part of me hopes and prays that I will get a local group together (even some of the old group!) and start using them again. But aside from that, as my memory fails, little by little each year, these boxes and books and miniatures on the shelves are my constant reminders of happy and sad and exciting moments, and great fun, and more importantly, great friends.

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